A Case Against First Dates

By: Tape and Nails

One of the main incentives for coming out for me (I know this makes me sound extremely sex-crazed and superficial, both of which I suspect I might be) was the ability to get laid. Being in the closet wasn’t exactly doing wonders for my sex life. In fact, my closeted freshman year at UC Berkeley was the driest year since I lost my virginity in 10th grade. Don’t get me wrong, this wasn’t the main reason I was coming out. In fact, I had no main reason to come out. I had several key reasons, maybe 5 or so, and getting laid happened to be like #2. The first, of course, was getting over my abusive ex-girlfriend by getting laid. I guess that makes getting laid my #1 reason (lol).
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TRIKONE NOW AWAITS SUPREME COURT’S DECISION ON PROP 8 AND DOMA

The journey for marriage equality continues. The Supreme Court of the United
States of America (SCOTUS) agreed to hear oral arguments on the Proposition 8
and DOMA case on the merits. Trikone now patiently waits until SCOTUS hears oral
arguments about these cases. Many marriage equality advocates were hoping that
SCOTUS would decide not to hear the Prop 8 case. If SCOTUS had denied certiorari
(i.e. decided not to hear the case), then the stay on the 9th Circuit’s decision would
have been lifted, and same sex couples could start getting married. However, now
that SCOTUS will hear the Prop 8 case, the stay order will remain in effect.
 
When SCOTUS listens to the Prop 8 oral arguments, they will consider the merits of
Proposition 8 and the technical issue of whether the proponents of Prop 8 had the
right to pursue their case. The merits of the Prop 8 case essentially look at whether
the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th amendment prohibits the California from
defining marriage as the union of a man and woman. Trikone hopes that SCOTUS
will decide that defining marriage exclusively as between a man and a woman is
unconstitutional.
 
SCOTUS may choose to only examine the issue of whether the proponents of Prop
8 had the right to pursue their case (i.e. legal standing). When the case was first
filed, the Petitioners were suing California officials for violating the Equal Protection
Clause by defining marriage between a man and a woman. The California officials,
including Governor Brown and Attorney General Kamala Harris, agreed that Prop
8 violated to the Constitution and would not oppose the petitioners. However, non-
governmental backers (i.e. proponents) of Prop 8 were allowed to come in and
argue for Prop 8. SCOTUS will decide if it was acceptable to allow the proponents to
come in and stand in the place of the California officials. SCOTUS could potentially
decide that the Prop 8 proponents did not have standing. If SCOTUS decides that
the proponents did not have standing, SCOTUS would not even need to decide the
merits of the case and the stay on the 9th Circuit’s order to strike down Prop 8
would be lifted.
 
Similar to the Prop 8 case, SCOTUS agreed to hear oral arguments on the merits
issue of the constitutionality of DOMA Section 3 and also whether the Executive
Branch could bring its appeal and that BLAG (Bipartisan Legal Advisory Group)
lacked standing.
 
Trikone anticipates that SCOTUS will hear the oral arguments for the Prop 8 and
DOMA case between March 25-27, and a decision is very likely around June 27. The
bottom line is that SCOTUS could make a decision on Prop 8 and DOMA Section 3,
but they have left themselves an out on the technical standing issue in both cases.
With the recent additions of marriage equality in Washington, Maine, and Maryland,
Trikone hopes that SCOTUS takes note and strikes down Proposition 8 and DOMA.
 
For Trikone Advocacy,
Monica Davis and Harsha Mallajosyula
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Trikone (San Francisco) reaches The White House

-Harsha Mallajosyula
Advocacy Director/Trikone

On July 19th, 2012 Trikone members Harsha Mallajosyula, Madhuri ANji,
Monica Davis and Poonam Kapoor presented our history quilt to White
House LGBT Liason Gautam Raghavan. The quilt was signed by Trikone
members in San Francisco and San Jose, thanking the President for his
leadership on marriage equality.

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I Hold the Key to the Dreams Congress Locked Away (non-fiction narrative)

- By Bupendra Ram
(Ethnically Indian, Bupendra Ram was born in Fiji and came to the United States at two-years of age. Six months later, he became undocumented. At the age of 23, he became Undocumented and Unafraid. His mission in the undocumented movement, as a person from the South Asian community, is to be the proof that immigration is a global issue affecting the lives of people everywhere. Also, that there are intersections in the undocumented movement like LGBTQ issues. Bupendra can be reached at Bupendra.ram@gmail.com)

A year ago the United States Senate failed to pass the DREAM Act. I sat at home watching them play with my future. I sat in disbelief as they made me feel less than human. With each vote, my accomplishments as an undocumented student disappeared into thin air. That day I was left with only one choice: to come out of the shadows and share my story- a story about an undocumented American who is full of accomplishments and perseverance.

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Without any window – Series of interviews with the gay community in Bangladesh

Tanvir Alim/Bangladesh

A picture is worth thousand words, especially when freedom of expression is curbed due to fear and stigma.

The queer community in Bangladesh is mostly underground. A culture of collective denial (of the existence of queer community in Bangladesh) is widely prevalent – a fact attributable to social conservatism. Stigmatization and taboo have made the gay community in particular, a vulnerable community. Unable to cope with social conditioning, they try to redefine a way of coherence.

These individual interviews tell a story of personal longing, belief, multitude of emotions and silent resilience. The stories not only portray the human reality of being gay but also capture the gay community challenging hetero-normative structures.
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Protect your love – Safe sex campaign by ASAAP

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Chennai Pride 2012 is here!

Can love be shackled? – Thiruvalluvar (2nd century Tamil poet and philosopher)

Chennai hosts its fourth annual Rainbow Pride in June 2012, a month celebrating visibility of alternate sexualities and gender identities. In India, the first Rainbow Pride March took place in Kolkata in 1999, and currently Pride is celebrated in nine cities and towns of India: Bengaluru, Bhubaneswar, Chennai, Coimbatore, Delhi, Kolkata, Mumbai, Pune and Thrissur.

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